Friday, 5 October 2012

don't be a hater...

A recent post check it out here on my beloved Mama Laughlin's blog has really made quite the stir amongst her readers.  One of the things I've come to expect and love about her is that she's a no-holds-barred kinda chick.  She talks about things that we all have first hand experience with, but are often too shy to even bring up in the light of day.  I read her blog because it makes me laugh.  Sometimes, her honesty makes me cry, but mostly, I feel like she understands a little bit about what it's like to be a mom who is struggling to be the perfect wife, mother and friend.  She gets it because she's living it too.

This particular post also made me laugh.  The post itself did.  The comments she received as a result of the post though did not make me laugh.  I couldn't believe the kinds of things people were saying in response to her position on such a wide open topic.  I couldn't believe that people would post such hateful things like:

Anonymous said...
This sounds to me a post from an insecure woman that wants to be the whore that her husband's friends always want to fuck. Why are women considered witholding if they aren't in the mood or the man has been an ass?

Anonymous said...
Yes this is your blog and you can write whatever you want, and yes you are tacky and yes you are trashy and yes you are uneducated and yes you are irresponsible and yes you are vain and yes you are harsh and crude and mostly yes you definitely suffer from low self esteem. It's obvious Brandi. Now that you are "famous" and people are paying you to talk about fitness and weight loss, perhaps you should stick to that subject? just a thought. From reading your blog, seems like you are drifting away from fitness and losing weight and leaning towards porn? What is it? Decide and stick with it. This way, some of your readers and followers can move on and away from your trash if you choose to write about trash and porn, and not about losing weight/fitness/health. What you have been doing lately with this blog of yours proves that you are a fraud. You really don't know much about fitness or eating healthy or staying healthy. Do you? You've run out of things to talk about in the subject because you just DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT IT! I mean if you were truly a health conscious person, you wouldn't go out once a month to get drunk. What healthy person does that? I don't know of any. You wouldn't fill your mouth with greasy,trashy fast food as often as you do. Also, quit fooling your readers by saying that you advocate for women. You don't have a clue about the subject! Some of your posts prove that. I suggest you quit this facade and get into the porno industry. That's what you really want, isn't it? Quit pretending you are someone you obviously are not. That is what the real issue with this last post of yours, in particular, is. Just be yourself Brandi just like you claim you are. News flash: you are a fake.

Notice, that both of the above comment posts were done anonymously.  So these haters, who clearly felt strongly about her post, were OK saying horrible (and as in the case of the second comment above,) personal comments about her, but couldn't even man-up enough to put their own names alongside those comments.

I realize that when you start a blog, you open yourself up for interaction with people you don't know and of course that means receiving feedback and even criticism from those same people.  What I don't understand though, is why anyone would honestly feel the need to lash out at a person that they don't know personally  (although comment number two seems to be a tad personal, so perhaps that's not entirely true) when it's just a blog post!  No one is forcing them to read it!  No one is saying 'hence forth, the law of the land shall be that every night, whether you wish to or not, you will 'ess some D' as a good and obedient wife should!'  What I love about reading blogs is how frank people usually are in their entries.  I love that Mama Laughlin doesn't hold shit back - if you've read any of her posts, that shouldn't come as a surprise to you!  I am not interested in reading things where people just wanna talk about recipes and school schedules - that's boring as hell!  Thats probably why I have no followers!

That being said, I'm also not interested in a blog where it's all flowers and roses and everyone holds hands all the time and dances around in a circle!  A little controversy is a good thing.  Personal and berating comments though?  Those aren't cool!  No one is prying your eyeballs open, holding your head in front of the computer screen and screaming 'READ IT'!  Post your comments - disagree, agree, whatevs!  Don't post hate though.  That's just not cool!

PHEW!  I feel so much better now that I got that off of my chest.  Hopefully now, I can return to my regularly scheduled boringness of THE BIG WEIGH-IN!!  Monday morning is it for this lil' Dicks vs Chicks competition!  I was 165.something or other yesterday when I peaked at the scale which I'm so excited about!  I really didn't think I could do it when I first started this blog.  I thought I'd get to that horrible 180 mark and not be able to bust through it again.  Not only did I bust through that one, but I made it through a whole other decade and a half of weight and now I want to dial it back even further!  That's all I'm gonna say about that for right now though because obviously I need SOMETHING to talk about on weigh-in Monday, right?

It's Thanksgiving on Monday (yup, I'm a great white Canuck!)  That means this weekend will be filled with lots of travelling and eating.  Turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes...need I go on?  However, I made it through dinner last weekend and still lost, so I'm sure I can do the same for rounds 2 and 3!  I'm supposed to run 8.5 miles on Sunday.  There's no way in H-E-L-L that's going to happen on one day.  Instead, I think I'm going to do 5 today, tomorrow and Sunday.  That way I get my mileage in and can still be ok with maybe having a tiny piece of pie!

The Rocky theme is pounding through my head right now.  Gotta run (literally!)

Gobble Gobble!


  1. Thank you for your support Emilie!

    You rock girl! :)

  2. I LOVE haters! HP
    Honestly, I'm not sure I'd be where I am today without your inspiration and honesty. I think it's pretty cool that regardless of the a-holes out there and the negative feedback they seem to give you on a regular basis (the bathing suit incident was BRU-TALLLL) you keep trucking ahead! I'm so glad I found you and I'd scrap those bitches in an ally for you if I could! I mean as long as there was a 24-hr nail repair place close by that is!

    You rock!!


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